The term “feelings” is an umbrella term as well as having a specific meaning.

  • There are 3 kinds of feelings.
    1. The first feeling is an emotion, such as anger, joy, anxiety, depression, frustration and shame.
    2. The second feeling is a statement of the state of the relationship. Examples are disconnected, distant or alienated.
    3. The third feeling is the negative beliefs that you have about yourself. Examples of this are inadequacy, a failure, worthless, and incompetent.
  • When you are in the world of feelings there are:
    • no right or wrong
    • no good or bad
    • no agenda- only understanding
    • no reality
    • the only thing that matters is perception